Change is essential to personal growth. But we get stuck between knowing the change we must make and taking steps to make the change. This paralyzing limbo is usually fueled by the fear of failure. If we want to get real with actually changing, we must rethink how we see failure and progress.

We are a collection of parts, often opposing parts. Our seemingly opposing parts might sound something like: A part of me wants to cut them out of my life, and a part of me wants to work on the relationship. Or, a part of me wants to stop binge eating, and a part of me loves the escape of a binge. How can this be? How can two opposite desires both be true at the same time? This can be answered from a neuroanatomical and psychological perspective, which can help us learn how to relate to and resolve internal conflicts and incongruencies.

Listening to your body is an essential process when seeking to align with your true self and the life you want to live. Follow these three steps to begin improving how you relate to your emotional and sensory experience.

Untangling guilt, shame, and people pleasing can help you become more in alignment with your values and help you achieve greater psychological ease.